The Salty Goddess

Ignorance is to peasantry what knowledge is to the Queen — and in this realm, we banish ignorance before it gets us banished.
This week on The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret opens the dictionary, lights the ignorance on fire, and reminds everyone that words do, in fact, mean things.
In this spicy, sharp, and painfully necessary episode, we break down the difference between stereotype, bias, prejudice, and discrimination — because apparently some folks have been using those words like interchangeable seasoning, and no, darling, that is not how language works.
From Irish Catholic stereotypes to Ford-driver jokes, Anne Margaret walks listeners through how bias forms, why prejudice is different, and where the line gets crossed into discrimination. More importantly, she makes the case that communication is a leadership skill, vocabulary is a professional tool, and “I didn’t mean it that way” does not erase the impact of what was said.
This episode is for leaders, team members, professionals, and grown adults who need to understand that sloppy language can create real damage. Pick up the dictionary, grab the thesaurus, and banish the ignorance before it starts making decisions on your behalf.

You audited the avoidance. Now what?
In this episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret takes the next step in the avoidance arc: taking action. After defining avoidant behavior patterns and learning how to audit for them, it is time to decide who gets full access, conditional access, limited access, or no access at all.
Avoidant people are not always malicious, but their patterns can still create instability, resentment, confusion, emotional labor, and stalled growth. They avoid the decision, and you carry the uncertainty. They avoid the conflict, and you carry the resentment. They avoid accountability, and you carry the cleanup. That is not peace. That is outsourcing discomfort to the nearest responsible adult.
Anne Margaret breaks down why removal is not cruelty, why boundaries are not rage, and why some people do not deserve another season of your life just because they are uncomfortable with accountability. She also turns the mirror back on the listener, because sometimes the avoidant person in the realm is us.
If you have been saving seats for people who vanish when accountability enters the room, this episode is your eviction notice. Stop chasing. Stop over-explaining. Stop paying the emotional bill for people who keep leaving the table.
It is time to protect the realm.

Avoidance has receipts, darling, and in this episode, we are opening the books.
In this episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret continues the three-part arc on avoidant behavior patterns with Episode 2: the audit. Last week defined avoidance and explained how avoidant behaviors often begin as protection. This week asks the harder question: what is avoidance costing you?
Avoidance may provide temporary relief, emotional distance, control, and a short-term sense of safety, but that relief is not free. Avoiding hard conversations, intimacy, decisions, accountability, apologies, boundaries, responsibility, visibility, or necessary endings can cost you trust, closeness, leadership credibility, opportunity, repair, peace, and time.
This episode walks listeners through how to audit themselves and their court. Where does avoidance show up? What are you calling it instead? Are you truly keeping the peace, setting boundaries, processing, being strategic, or staying private, or are you avoiding discomfort and letting your ego guard the cell door?
Anne Margaret also challenges listeners to examine the people around them: who benefits from your silence, lack of boundaries, conflict avoidance, overwhelm, or unwillingness to grow? Who mirrors avoidance back to you? Who triggers your automatic withdrawal? Who is harmed by your silence, defensiveness, delay, or refusal to repair?
This is not a shame spiral. It is not self-attack. It is not an excuse parade. It is evidence collection.
Because avoidance does not just protect you from discomfort. It delays honesty, blocks repair, damages trust, weakens leadership, starves intimacy, and convinces you that silence, distance, and delay are the same thing as peace.
They are not.
If you have ever avoided a conversation, used busyness as an excuse, called discomfort “peace,” let family history override healthy boundaries, delayed accountability, or stayed in dysfunction because walking away felt too hard, this episode will hand you the mirror with just enough salt to make it useful.
Audit thyself. Audit thy court. And stop spending your most valuable currency on people, patterns, and prisons that have NEVER served you.

Avoidance is sneaky. It does not always look like running away. Sometimes it looks like being busy, private, independent, calm, logical, low-maintenance, professional, or “above the drama.”
But what if the thing you keep calling peace is actually avoidance? What if that boundary language, emotional distance, busyness, or polished self-control is not protecting your peace, but in fact helping you build your own prison?
In this episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret begins a new three-part arc on avoidant behavior patterns. This first episode is the assessment: what avoidant behaviors are, why people develop them, and what avoidance does for the person who uses it.
This is not a diagnostic conversation and it is not medical advice. This episode explores the very human ways people avoid discomfort, vulnerability, conflict, commitment, intimacy, feedback, decisions, success, uncertainty, grief, joy, accountability, and repair.
Avoidance often begins as protection. Maybe emotional needs were dismissed. Maybe conflict felt unsafe. Maybe vulnerability was used against you. Maybe being low-maintenance earned approval. Maybe success, visibility, love, or healing created too much risk.
But the strategy that protected you in one season can imprison you in another.
This episode asks the essential question:
Are you protecting your peace, or avoiding discomfort while your ego stands guard at the cell door?
If you have ever avoided a hard conversation, delayed a decision, refused to ask for help, stayed in potential instead of action, ghosted your own growth, or called emotional distance “keeping your peace,” this episode will hand you the mirror with just enough salt to make it useful.
Avoidance is a prison, not peace. Your ego is the warden.
Next week, the arc continues with the audit: how to determine whether avoidance is costing you connection, trust, leadership, intimacy, confidence, and your most valuable currency — time.

Salty warning: this episode is 65 minutes long. That is not a mistake. That is a masterclass and you are  welcome, it is also free!  Hydrate, pack a snack, adjust your crown, plan a bathroom break, do the work!
In this extended episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret closes the confidence versus ego arc with the action phase: how to move from being ego-led to confidence-led, how to build real confidence through evidence and practice, and how to handle people who refuse to grow even after you have led them directly to the Fountain of Confidence.
This episode breaks down five practical behaviors for personal growth: telling the truth faster, practicing clean accountability, building competence on purpose, regulating before responding, and keeping small promises to yourself. Anne Margaret explains why confidence is not a mood, a performance, or a motivational slogan, it is a practiced way of life built through self-trust, evidence, repetition, accountability, and emotional regulation.
The episode also explores how to lead ego-led people toward confidence without becoming their therapist, emotional valet, self-esteem witness, or unpaid maturity consultant. You will learn how to model confidence-led behavior, correct behavior without attacking identity, ask better questions, reinforce progress, hold boundaries, and recognize when someone refuses to drink from the fountain.
And when they refuse? You stop overexplaining. You stop confusing potential with pattern. You adjust access. You stop rescuing them from consequences. You release the assignment.
Because confidence is not just knowing who you are. Confidence is knowing what behavior earns access, and what behavior gets escorted back to the gate.

In this episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret moves from recognition into the full Audit: how to determine whether you are being led by ego or confidence, and whether you have allowed ego-led people too much access to your life.
This episode breaks down the difference between ego-led behavior and confidence-led behavior, including how people respond to correction, conflict, criticism, comparison, boundaries, apologies, success, accountability, and vulnerability. Anne Margaret explains why ego protects image while confidence protects integrity, and why self-awareness without action is nothing more than performative emotional fanfare.
But this audit does not stop with you. This episode also introduces the Court Access Model: the throne room, inner court, outer court, gate, and outside the Queendom. Because not everyone deserves access to your time, energy, peace, strategy, vulnerability, dreams, or nervous system. Access is earned by behavior, not history, title, guilt, obligation, or proximity.
If you have ever wondered whether you are confidence-led or ego-led, whether someone in your circle is safe with access, or whether it is time to demote someone from the throne room to the gate, this episode is your mirror, your audit, and your royal permission slip to adjust access accordingly.
Core question:Are you being led by ego, and are you allowing ego-led people too much access to your court?

Confidence and ego are not the same damn thing, and arrogance is not confidence with better shoes.
In this episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret kicks off a new recognition-assessment-audit-execution arc by breaking down the difference between confidence-led and ego-led behavior. Confidence is grounded in self-trust, competence, accountability, and the ability to be corrected without collapsing. Ego, on the other hand, is often image protection, emotional armor, and the desperate need to be seen favorably.
This episode explores why ego is not always evil, how trauma, shame, invalidation, fear, and repeated emotional unsafety can create ego-led behavior, and how confidence is built through evidence, mastery, failure, recovery, and self-respect. Anne Margaret also explains the difference between confidence, ego, arrogance, insecurity, and self-esteem, because words matter, darling, and we are not letting performative nonsense run around unsupervised.
If you have ever wondered whether you are operating from self-trust or self-protection, this episode will help you recognize which internal operating system is running your mouth, your reactions, your relationships, and your life.
This week’s recognition question:Are you protecting your image, or are you acting from your values?

If you ran the audit and thought that was the hard part, think again.
In this episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret breaks down the brutal truth most people avoid: awareness is not transformation! Execution is.
You’ve already identified the people, patterns, and behaviors draining your time, energy, and peace. Now comes the part that separates high performers from everyone else, making decisions and taking action.
This episode dives into:
Why clarity is NOT your problem (and what actually is)
How to identify and eliminate negative ROI relationships
The difference between boundaries and explanations
Why most people stay stuck in analysis paralysis
How to reclaim and reinvest your most valuable currency: time
If you’re still hesitating, delaying, or overthinking, here is your wake-up call.
Run the audit… or don’t. Either way, you chose the outcome.
🎯 Perfect for high achievers, entrepreneurs, healthcare professionals, and anyone ready to stop tolerating low-return environments and start executing with intention.

Run the audit… or DON’T. Either way, you chose the outcome.
Let’s stop pretending you don’t know what needs to change.
In this unapologetically direct episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret Perry walks you through the ROI Audit: a powerful framework designed to evaluate the real return on investment of your:
relationships
habits
environments
and daily decisions
Because whether you like it or not:
Everything in your life is costing you time.
And not everything is worth what you’re paying.
Inside This Episode:
The one question that exposes whether someone belongs in your life
How to identify low ROI people who drain your time and energy
Why “trying” without results is a red flag—not effort
The difference between grace and self-abandonment
How to categorize people into high, neutral, and negative ROI
Why your hesitation to act is actually the clearest signal you need to
Hard Truths You’ll Hear
You are not confused, you are avoiding
Not everyone deserves access to you
Patterns are not phases, they are forecasts
And every day you delay… you are choosing the same outcome
Your Action Step
Identify three people or situations.
Run the audit.Categorize them.Adjust access immediately.
Because waiting doesn’t create clarity.
It reinforces the problem.

You are not broke.You are not unlucky.You are not out of opportunities.
You are hemorrhaging time.
And most of it is being wasted on people, patterns, and behaviors that produce absolutely zero return on investment.
In this unapologetically direct episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret Perry delivers a hard truth most people avoid:
People have ROI - emotionally, intellectually, and energetically.
“Trying” without results is performative effort—not progress.
Habits and routines are predictive algorithms of the future.
You cannot fix someone committed to their own dysfunction.
Our internal dialogue is either building your life, or sabotaging it.
This episode dives deep into:
Why words mean nothing without consistent action (Verba vs. Acta)
The danger of investing in low-discipline, high-drama individuals
How to identify patterns that forecast someone’s future behavior
Why purpose must be intrinsic and not borrowed or outsourced
The brutal reality of finite time and why most people waste it on gossip, assumptions, and emotional nonsense
How your environment and proximity influence your identity over time
And most importantly:
A perspective that will stop you in your tracks:
Life is not measured in years… but in seasons.
When you realize someone had only 55 springs, 55 summers, 55 autumns, and 55 winters…you begin to understand just how limited your time really is.
Even 100 seasons wouldn’t be enough.
So why are you wasting even a fraction of yours?
Episode Dedication
This episode is dedicated to Piper, my Princess Piobaire, whose time was spent fully, loyally, and without wasted investment.
SALTY Final Truth
When someone shows you who they are through patterns, behaviors, and consistency:
Believe the data.
Not the story.
Not the promise.
Not the potential.